VI Of other forms of marriage
When a girl cannot meet her lover frequently in private,
she should send the daughter of her nurse to him, it being understood that she
has confidence in her, and had previously gained her over to her interests.
On seeing the man, the daughter of the nurse should, in the course of
conversation, describe to him the noble birth, the good disposition, the beauty,
talent, skill, knowledge of human nature and affection of the girl in such a way
as not to let him suppose that she had been sent by the girl, and should thus
create affection for the girl in the heart of the man.
To the girl also, she should speak about the excellent qualities of the
man, especially of those qualities that she knows are pleasing to the girl.
When the girl is gained over, and acts openly with the man as his wife,
he should cause fire to be brought from the house of a Brahman, and having
spread the Kusha grass upon the ground, and offered an oblation to the fire, he
should marry her according to the precepts of the religious law.
After this, he should inform his parents of the fact, because it is the
opinion of ancient authors that a marriage solemnly contracted in the presence
of fire cannot afterwards be set aside.
After the consummation of the marriage, the relations of the man should gradually be made acquainted with the affair, and the relations of the girl should also be apprised of it in such a way, that they may consent to the marriage, and overlook the manner in which it was brought about, and when this is done, they should afterwards be reconciled by affectionate presents and favorable conduct. In this manner the man should marry the girl according to the Gandharva form of marriage.